The ones you set for yourself? You know them?
I have, and sometimes it’s easy to say no, and sometimes I’m uncertain, and sometimes I’m sure I don’t want to but find myself drawn into a current, and before I know it, to quote Neil Usher, I’m sucking up something I left behind.
It often starts with a small assumption, a minor detail not clarified, some (unasked for) trust that others have the same priorities and values that you have.
I learn, I listen, my courage to state my needs grows, my insight to understand my needs and to ask for what I want becomes a little easier.
I get sucked into a system, and sometimes spat out, but I always knew, something. Before.
Stay with your discomfort.
Hold on to your heartbeat.
And ask for whatever it is you need.